Sunday, April 15, 2012

How Querying is Like Dating

It's impolite to blog about your querying.  I know you want to.  You want to share with the world how miserable and hopeful and delighted and forlorn you are.  All those crazy ups and downs that come with publishing.  But trust me, you don't want to spill your guts about your query letters on your blog, or any other public place for that matter.  The agents don't appreciate it, your fans are bored by it and all you'll do is make other writers go crazy from over-analyzing every word you say as if it were gospel.

Trust me, dude.

Instead of blogging about your query, you can give unsolicited writing advice instead!  And even better, this is also unsolicited dating advice.  It's a two-for!  You can't beat that, really.

Querying = Dating

Every single person of the sex you are attracted to in the whole world?
Every single agent that represents your genre.

Going out to meet singles?
Picking out agents to query.

Flirting a little to see if the hottie is interested?
Sending out your query.

Going on a date to test the waters?
Request for a partial.

Dating steady?
Request for a full.


Here's the thing.  Do you honestly expect that the first person that you flirt with is going to end up marrying you?  No!  And thank god for that.  You cast a wide net, you meet a lot of people, you find someone who clicks with you and maybe -- just maybe -- you get together.  Or maybe not.  It doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter because no matter how many people reject you, you only need one "yes" to change your whole life.

Keep your chin up.  Keep dreaming about your Prince Charming.  He'll come.

Until then, keep flirting.  I mean, querying.  Yeah.  That.

1 comment:

  1. "You only need one 'yes' to change your whole life."

    How very, very true.

    My mom is working on her first novel right now, and she's still a long way from querying, but I'm thinking I will pass this post along to her. I think she'll appreciate it. =)